- What is the ego?
- Are you the ego?
- What is the meaning of this word?
- How would you define the word ego?
Are you your name, individuality, personality, or body, or are they just tools you use to express yourself in the external world?
These are not strange, meaningless questions. Have you ever questioned your identity or wondered who you are? It is most likely that you never did.
What Is the Ego?
Let us try to define what the ego is.
The ego is the sum of one’s thoughts, beliefs, habits, and identification with one’s body. It is the conscious mind.
The ego is the identification of your awareness-consciousness with your physical body, emotions, and thoughts. To express itself in the outside world, your awareness-consciousness needs the physical body, emotions, and thoughts, and it needs to identify itself with them. This creates the ego.
Your thoughts evoke feelings and desires, which lead to action. Anger, unhappiness, or frustration might arise if a desire cannot be fulfilled.
As you can see, the ego is not an independent entity. It is composed of the body, feelings, and thoughts, as well as the consciousness that activates it.
The identification of the consciousness with this trio is very strong, and most people do not realize this erroneous identification.
The “real you,” your essence, is free, perfect, and independent.
The body, thoughts, and feelings are temporary and constantly change. This mixture creates the ego, which often leads to various desires, fears, worries, conflicts with other egos, misunderstandings, anger, and conflicts.
Each ego considers itself real and desires to protect itself and gain power over other egos. This can lead to clashes, fights, or even wars. Each ego is chained to its belief system, thoughts, and ideas and will do everything to defend them.
The ego is like a mask you put on yourself and act according to it.
The ego gives a sense of self-worth. To some extent, this is good, but too much of it can lead to an inflated sense of superiority.
If you continue to identify with your ego, you will limit yourself, your thinking, and your actions. You will think and behave in set ways and may become intolerant and inconsiderate of other people.
“Less identification with the ego-personality brings a sense of happiness and freedom.”
The Illusion of the Ego
If someone calls your name, you would turn your head to see who called you, but you are not your name. Your name is only a particular sound that identifies you when someone wants to address you.
What would happen if you changed your name? Wouldn’t you still be the same person?
You change the clothes you wear. You change your hairdo, and you may dye your hair sometimes. Does this change who you really are? No, it does not. You only change your outside appearance.
You can change your job, car, or house, but you are still the same person. These are external changes, but the “inner you” does not change.
Most people consider their possessions, name, job, status, or what they wear to be part of them. If they lose one of their possessions or something gets broken, they feel they have lost a part of themselves.
This kind of thinking can lead to unnecessary suffering.
The Group Ego
So far, we have talked about the individual ego, but there are also shared, bigger egos – group egos with which people identify. These are also called aggregate egos.
Most people tend to join and be a part of a larger ego. They might do so consciously and intentionally, or it can be part of their upbringing and education. This larger ego could be their family, religion, workplace, neighborhood, political party, city, country, and even football or basketball team.
Some people identify with a particular thought, idea, or common cause and join groups with similar thoughts or goals. This might sometimes lead to conflicts with other groups that believe and support different ideas.
Let’s examine what happens at sports contests. If you are a fan of a certain sports team and your team loses, you get depressed and angry. If it wins, you feel happy and elated. The same thing happens with political parties and other kinds of groups.
In this case, anything that happens to the group you support affects you deeply because you feel that you are a part of it. You will also defend it if someone says anything against it.
Often, these larger egos oppose each other, speak against each other, and might even fight against each other. Each ego group believes that it is right and others are wrong. Isn’t this a bit funny and tragic?
It is the same life force passing through all egos, activating and giving them life. Identifying with the ego makes you see the differences, but identifying with the life force, lets you see through the ego and perceive reality as it is – one and undivided.
When you know what the ego is and can rise above it, you realize that the ego blocks clear sight and understanding, making you believe that you are a certain individuality-personality and that other people are apart from you—your opponents, rivals, and sometimes, your enemies.
The life force manifesting through each one is the same power. It is one homogeneous power but manifests through different personalities.
The life force resembles electricity that flows through wires, making various instruments work, such as your TV, computer, oven, or air conditioner. In the same way, the life force is one homogeneous power that flows through everything and activates the various egos.
The life force, which is one with your consciousness, manifests in myriad forms. What would happen if we became aware of the life force and shifted our awareness to it?
If we do so, we will rise above the ego, broaden our consciousness, drop limiting identifications and thinking, and expand our awareness.
To rise above the limited ego, some inner work is required.
Every one of us enacts the role of a specific actor on the stage of life through the ego. This ego is the mask hiding the real Spirit that we are.
Identification with the role that we play in life makes us forget our real essence. We think and act according to the kind of ego we identify.
Forgetting our true essence is due to seeing the world through the eyes of the ego.
This is the reason for suffering, unhappiness, anger, conflicts, lack of satisfaction, and every other negative feeling.
How can you rise above the ego? Through inner work, getting out of your comfort zone, becoming tolerant and considerate, learning emotional detachment, and through some other means, such as concentration and meditation.
Is this worth our time and effort? Yes, it is worth the time and effort. You will gain many benefits along the way, such as inner peace, better focus, more common sense, better judgment, happiness, and the ability to get along with people.
Thoughts and beliefs make us see the world through certain colored eyeglasses. If we remove the eyeglasses, we will see life as it is, without the differences. We will then see beyond illusion, limitations, and set beliefs.
What Is Ego Quotes
“The ego is only an illusion, but a very influential one. Letting the ego illusion become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self. Ego, the false idea of believing that you are what you have or what you do, is a backward way of assessing and living life.”
– Wayne Dyer
“The ego, however, is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image, your social mask, and the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control and is sustained by power because it lives in fear.”
– Ram Dass
“Complaining is one of the ego’s favorite strategies for strengthening itself.”
– Eckhart Tolle
